You can tell if you’ve made a sound choice, given sound advice, or done right by yourself and others in any given situation. There are some tricks to it that you need to be conscious of.
The first and most important thing is always trust your intuition. Lead with your first, most positive thought or idea.
Here’s an example the majority of us can relate to:
You drive to the store to buy some groceries or sundries or whatever, and as you’re leaving the parking lot on your way out, you see a person holding a sign that’s asking for assistance, be it money or food or a drink, etc.
What do you think when you see this?
How many thoughts run through your mind in those few moments of time between your stop at the traffic light and even after you drive away from that person?
If you’re anything like me, you probably get a half dozen or more different thoughts running through your head during those scant few seconds. Not all of them “good” ones either.
First tend to be the more positive, empathetic ones:
- That poor person.
- I wish I could help.
- Can I help?
- Do I have any money with me right now?
- Can I afford it?
- If things went differently, that might be me out there holding that sign.
- I wonder when the last time was they ate?
Then, next come the more doubtful, limiting ones:
- I only have a few coins in change, that person would probably be insulted if that was all I gave them.
- I don’t have the money to spare right now.
- What if this person is lying?
- Are they really poor at all or is it a scam?
- I don’t have time to stop.
- The people in the cars behind me will get mad if I do.
- Maybe next time.
These thoughts and more might spiral around in your head in a quick and dizzying fashion.
But here’s the trick to situations like this: stop thinking, start acting.
Your instinct, that very first intuitive impulse that you had to empathize with and be charitable towards this person. That’s all you need. Act on that. Give to that person and don’t think twice about it (literally, just keep the first positive thought you had, then act.)
If for some reason your first thought is not a charitable one, then it means you are afraid. You are afraid of something or someone about that situation to the point that you are letting it control you. Acknowledge this fact, and examine your fears. What is it that you are afraid of?
Once you’ve discovered why you are afraid, ask yourself why you are letting that fear hold you back from demonstrating your truth. Then the next time you are in that situation, remember how your first reaction was one of fear. Be conscious of it. Focus on your thoughts of empathy towards that person or situation, compassion, love. Let those positive thoughts be stronger than the fearful ones.
For you see, the secret to truly knowing you have made the right decision in any given moment, is when you feel at peace with your actions, words, or choices, even despite your fears. If you want to find that inner peace, act more out of your first, highest, intuitive positive thought.