So, what do you do for a living?

       Has anyone ever asked you this question before?
“So, what do you do for a living?” is the kind of question that really only serves one purpose: to make you aware of the fact that someone is about to judge you based on their own expectations.
       There exists this illness, or delusion, that our society suffers from, that says a person’s worth is solely decided by what they are doing or have accomplished in their life. A person is not seen as “good enough” or “acceptable” or even “validated” if the sum worth of their accomplishments does not meet this strange and arbitrary level of doingness that usually equates to a nebulous concept of “contributing to society” or some such fanciful spin.
       But this idea that a person has to measure up to someone’s expectations is absurdly false. Nobody on the face of this planet has to live up to anyone else’s expectations or ideas of how a person should or shouldn’t be. It is not a requirement for life on this Earth. By insisting that someone needs to meet your expectations of them before they earn your approval, you are simply trying to control that person and shape them into your own narrow view of the world, ceasing to allow them to be the individual they are.
The fact of the matter is, every single life on this planet needs nothing more than to exist, in order to be “worthy” of existence.  There are no requirements, no paradigms to fit into, no minimum contributions to fulfill in order to be granted justification on living, for there is nothing that needs justifying to begin with.
       So the next time somebody asks you “What do you do for a living?” just be calm in knowing that they are a person who does not yet understand that there is no need for judgment or expectations of others.
       Reply to them simply, without feeling as though you are inadequate in any way, because that is what their judgmental attitude will attempt to push on you, but do not doubt yourself or waver from the knowledge that no matter what someone else says or thinks, it does not diminish the beauty of who you are, and you do not need to prove yourself to anyone for any reason.
The next time somebody asks me what I do for a living, I am going to say to them: “I breathe.”
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